Tuesday, 23 June 2009

Discussion Point – The Tentacles of Time

In my other, other life – where I wear many hats, I am revisiting ten years worth of work that I have done. Why – because ten years ago I wrote the vows below for a couple who at the time were acquaintances – but as the years progresses, we have become steadfast friends – and now ten years later, they want to renew their vows, and I was asked to revisit the original vows I wrote.

Ordinarily I would ponder on the request and plot and organise and drink cups of tea, but at the end of the day I would get the job done. For some reason I am stumped – I am not sure if it’s due to the fact that I am now friends rather than acquaintance and the words become more difficult to write, or is it as i suspect this is a rude awakening to the fact that a decade has past right before my eyes and I am not ready to face middle age.


The Nameless Party Vows.

Her Words:

It's said you only have this moment once in your life.

It's said some people search their whole life and never find it.

It's also a fact that most people settle at the first flutter of their heart.

How lucky am i that i have found everything and all with you.

Meeting you has made all the up and downs of life worth it.

This moment in time, is the moment i have dreamed and prayed for.

My love for you goes beyond everything i could have imagined.

I will spend the rest of my life thinking of the day that i meet you, as the day my life began.

I love you.

His Words;

My dad wonders when will I ever find a nice young lady and settle down,

My mom keeps hinting at the fact she's not a grandmother,

I said I'm not ready and won't be ready for a while yet.

The moment i met you, i regretted not having met you a lifetime before,

Not having being joined to you from the beginning of time.

I will love you as you have never been loved before,

I will cherish you as my life partner and my soul mate,

for the rest of my life.

I join my hands and my heart with you today - and I promise to never let go.

© October 2001 by Jhayboy

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As it Stand

How many of you have had the chance to look back at the years – do you embrace it as the natural progression of life, Do you have tangible prove to say “I WAS HERE” – kids, profession, material acquisitions or have you gone with the concept ‘GO WITH THE FLOW” and most importantly do you want to remember.

Lastly – after ten years what are the words that you would like to be told to you.


Without a Doubt

I looked

I looked again – you are different, yet the same,

Time has aged us,

Our love has kept us,

Was it worth it?

Was I worth it?


Without a doubt


Of you. 

© 2009 Jhayboy

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7 Speak To Me:

Blodeuedd on 23 June 2009 at 16:14 said...

Don't you just ask the hardest questions today :)
I have no idea what to answer
i seem to remember life through what I read, lol

Yvette @ True Crime Books on 23 June 2009 at 16:57 said...

Wow wow wow.This looks amazing!!!

Yvette @ True Crime Books on 23 June 2009 at 17:04 said...

Above comment was for blog.This one is for the words above.I always cry at weddings and these words above are so beautiful!Basically after ten years I would like to be told by friends and partner,my life has been better for knowing you! short and sweet,I just want to know I had some kind of impact.From my children I would just want them to be 100% sure that I love them and whatever I did which might have seemed not so nice was actually coming from a place of love and care.If my teenager sees this she will puke.My 4 yr old thinks I am the best thing since sliced bread so Im ok there for a few years.

Cecile Smutty Hussy on 23 June 2009 at 17:45 said...

I am loving the new look my dear! And you love to stump us with the hardest pondering questions... agreeing with Blodeuedd!

10 yrs ago... and where life brought me now. 10 yrs... I have definitely grown into the person I am today. I learned alot, mastered some things, fallen a lot, picked myself up and carried on. I would love to hear my beloved hubby tell me that his life started when he met me... (can not leave him alone). I would love to hear that, just with a smile or shoulder to lean on... I have helped someone. Or made someone's day. My life's work is make sure that Brooke grows into her own person and allows no one to bend her will. It has been my goal (because 10 yrs ago, I was facing a divorce, raising a 6 yr by myself and dealing with what the world had to throw at me for doing such a thing) to teach Brooke that no matter what... you will survivie! Cries, heartbreak, failures... nothing can keep you down... you are the only person that can allow pity to your self!
Wow... sorry so long! Okay going now!

Erotic Horizon on 24 June 2009 at 18:51 said...


That's exactly how I feel - stumped, but I have to find the words..


Erotic Horizon on 24 June 2009 at 18:54 said...


I empathise with you - especially with the kids, but as you said, you still have a few years of sugar from the young ones coming your way....

Hubby and teenagers - will just find out that you are always there for them and love you more for it


Erotic Horizon on 24 June 2009 at 18:59 said...


I can safely say you have achive all the the things on your list.

And more...

Hang in there, the next ten will be beautiful..