Monday, 20 April 2009

Talking About The Stages of Blogging - (Not Definitive)


  This week i am going to be visiting the “Stage Of Blogging” (according to me). I love blogging, i love my blog and this can be said of almost everyone who blog.

There are days however when i think why the hell did i get involved in this time sucking, energy draining production that is quietly taking over chunks of my day. I have split the stages into three areas to get a better handle of where i am and tossing some questions out there for the more experience bloggers.

New Blogger – Self explanatory, for a new blogger to up to a year i would put into the new category section.

Middle of the Road – Between 1-2 years (this is for bloggers with some level of consistency.

Been Here a While - (Best i could come up with) Two years and more

Because i consider myself a new blogger, i have gone a bit more in depth on that area.  I am open to any other tips and suggestions not mentioned on the post.









New Blogger

  1. Go into this venture with an open mind
  2. It would be nice if you knew what you want to blog about before you set up,
  3. Do some research on the different types of blogs before you set up – if you are up and blogging before you know of the other type of blogs – it’s not too late to migrate to another blog.
  4. Blog about something you not only know, but you are comfortable blogging about.
  5. What ever you decide on blogging about, do it with integrity. If you are blogging about smut or the edgier side of life, be clear, be sure and remember once it's out there in cyberworld - you can't take it back.
  6. Be consistent with how you blog, although remember not everyone can post everyday
  7. Network, network, network - start promoting your blog – join up with blogs and get involved in things that you can commit to.
  8. Familiarise yourself with blog terms – they are importance to know.
  9. Copyright and Plagiarism – find out what they are and find out how they affect you.
  10. Try to get involved in areas of the net that you are interested in - eg. memes, specific blog network sites etc...
  11. Pace yourself – it’s your baby it ain’t going anywhere
  12. There are hundreds of thousand of sites out their to help you improve the look and feel of your blog – USE THEM.
  13. If books are your choice of poison – there are more than enough books out there on how to manage and have fun with your blog.
  14. Personalize your blog, You don't have to give your home address or the name of your first child, but get comfortable and feel your blog.
  15. Be patient it doesn’t happen overnight.
  16. You are only one person – you cant read it all, you can’t do it all.



                                       Do you consider any of these when you blog


Other than what they all say, just have fun. Reviewing or posting about books shouldn’t be a chore. You don’t have to take part in memes you don’t like the sound of, or read genres you’re not into. If you enjoy what you do, it will show through your posts. Also, reply to comments; if you get to know your readers/fellow bloggers, and vice versa, there’s more chance of them coming back.

Jo- Ink and Paper © Erotic Horizon

Your blog should be a labour of love. It's a chance to communicate your ideas to others, and it's also a chance to share something of yourself. The latter is still a problem for me, but I think I'm getting better. Getting feedback from readers is so special. The exchange of ideas is very stimulating.

Patricia – Patricia Vampire Notes © Erotic Horizon




What may happen

  • These are some of the things that might realistically be happening in your world once you decide to take the plunge and start a blog.
  • You will be wondering why you have not been blogging years ago.
  • HTML will be driving you up the wall and a few other things as well.
  • Depending on which blog you decide to use, the negatives may outweigh the positive and you may have moved or are considering migrating.
  • You'll more than likely change your template a few times before you settle on one.
  • You’ll have moment when you want to give up.
  • You’ll act like your blog is your first child – and you’ll probably forsake your first child to keep up until you get a handle on things – if you ever do.
  • You probably start wondering if any one is actually reading your blog.
  • You would after a few week be trying to build online acquaintances. 
  • You’ll eventually find stats counter and all the other visitor tracking sites and – hop right onto the bandwagon.



Keep posting. Even if it’s once or twice a week. Try to go for more, but do post at least that. If you want people  to hear what you have to say keep it interesting and have fun with it! If you’re just starting out, don’t expect instant results. It will take time for it to grow!

Ruth – Books Books and more books © erotic Horizon

Depends on what you're blogging for, but in general, I'd say be honest but try to be accurate in how you

Express yourself. It's a terrible thing to have someone come and rip you a new one because they misunderstood what you were trying to say. My second tip is not to take anything personally even when it sounds personal.

Kat – Book Thingo © Erotic Horizon




Some Tips. (Some might be repeat)

  • Post consistently (even if not every day – - a good thing to do is schedule post, rather than lumping 4- 10 post in one day - stagger your post over a few days.
  • Make your blog accessible, use the subscription button, follower widget or on your comment box – use the option that allows readers to have follow-up email alert
  • Visit other blogs, as often as you can and leave comments – chance are people will follow your comments to your blog.
  • You realistically after a while won’t be able to visit all your favourite blog everyday – however once you get round to it, go back to last post you visit and update yourself. 
  • Try using short paragraph – this might sound like nit picking, but the longer the paragraph the more likely it is that it won’t be read in its entirety.
  • Depending on the blog you have – visuals are good 
  • Reply to your comments – these are people interacting with you
  • Remember net courtesy – remember common sense usually do the trick, it’s not all Miss Manners – common sense more often than not works.
  • Not every one is great at coming up with brilliant new ideas – the net is there for your use, see what’s out there – if you have to ask to use an idea (which most time you don’t) ask and keep your blog fresh.
  • More people lurk on your blog, than followers or subscribers – be mindful of them all.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask any blogger a question or just ask for help. The worst that might happen is that you don’t get a reply – buck up – TRY SOMEONE ELSE.
  • Get a dedicated email for your blog. Believe me you do want to keep your personal email separate from your blog email address.
  • The web is huge – monstrous in it’s size – don't be afraid to surf out of your comfort zone – You’ll be surprise at what you pick up.
  • Listen to what your commenter's are telling you – it can only improve your blogging ( within reason)
  • Make a concerted effort to find tips and tricks to make your blog better, and easier to access your contend eg.Black Background Bother You? A Suggested Solution 



Just stick with it, give yourself time to make your blog a little corner that “reflects” you basically. It does take a lot of time. Especially when you start fiddling with html. Lol

Lea – Closetwriter © Erotic Horizon

Don’t expect anything too soon!

Amber – Amber Book blog © Erotic Horizon




Middle of the road bloggers

(I still consider myself a new blogger, but just gonna throw out some things for blogger a year  - 2 years)

  • You should have found your groove by now – or at the least some method to your madness should be happening on your blog.
  • Are you networking – found your twitter side, dip your feet into the “feeds” and “promotion” of your blog?
  • Are you still as courteous as when you started?
  • Have you gotten a handle on your emails and keeping up to date with your comment? 
  • Are you any better at the back end of your blog – html, widgets etc… ?
  • Do you still make the rounds of the blogs and let your readers know you are appreciating them?
  • Are you as creative with your blog as when you started, or have you develop a plan and have not deviated from it – AT ALL?
  • Is your blog in tip top shape as when you started it – are photos hanging on too long, updates to side bar not done etc? 
  • Are you choosing your battles, what to get involved in or do you jump onto every band wagon or do you not let your voice be heard at all?
  • Are you balancing your blogging with personal time?
  • Is it worth it actually visiting your blog


Yes. Do your own thing. Don’t worry if it’s not what everyone else does. Don’t worry if your stuff doesn’t seem “current” or “topical”. Write about what interests you.

And do it daily.

Linda Mooney – Linda Mooney’s other World of Romance © Erotic Horizon

          Lastly--be honest about gripes you might have with the plot or character depictions, but don’t make it a ‘God I hated so and so because she was so DUMB!’.  Point out what you didn’t like, why it didn’t work for you.  If all else fails--e-mail the author and politely ask them to explain a character’s actions.  Maybe a scene got cut or re-arranged or an author merely didn’t realize it.  Most authors I’ve e-mailed seem to appreciate the feedback!

Lexie – Poison Rationality © Erotic Horizon








Been Here a while...

  • (I’ll probably say 2 yrs or more – with some consistency – I would consider been here a while – It’s like dogs yrs – blogs ages quicker.)
  • Is your blog still a labour of love or is it all about the stats.
  • Have you gotten too big for your britches – this might come across in comment, post and little rants that you throw out on your blog.
  • Are you a stats hog and forgotten the reason why you blog?
  • Are you actually keeping up with your blog – or is it hit and miss?
  • Do you welcome new bloggers into your community?
  • Is your keyboard become the poison pen
  • Are you aware of the impact that you have on whatever community that you are apart of.
  • How robotic is your blog – is there anything of you there?
  • How user friendly is your blog?
  • Are your earlier post coming back to haunt you now (all those free thoughts you thought were good to express – are they making you cringe now)?
  • Is your blog now an industry?


 Well, do's is to just be yourself and don't be afraid to state your actual opinion on a book. Don'ts would be to not have a too dark background. It's hard to read and some people may not like it. Be neat and organized, don't have things all over the place.

Mandy – Nocturnal Reviews © Erotic Horizon


This list is not in the least covering everything there is to know about blogging. Put your suggestions and tips on comment and let us know what works and what didn’t work for you.

All the quote from the post are from GUEST BLOGGERS on the blog. There were some wonderful guest that i had a great time with over the past few month, follow the link and catch up on some really cool blogs.



27 Speak To Me:

Blodeuedd on 20 April 2009 at 07:33 said...

Those are some really good advice :D
You have sure had some great guests over

Teddyree on 20 April 2009 at 09:12 said...

What an absolutely brilliant post, thank you so much, that was enlightening & informative & fun!

Erotic Horizon on 20 April 2009 at 10:13 said...

Hey Blodeuedd

Thanks for stopping by...
I had some really wonderful Guest on the blog over the past few month..


Erotic Horizon on 20 April 2009 at 10:15 said...

Hey Teddyree..

Welcome to my slice of the pie...

I hope i have captured what is happening in most peoples world.. i just wrote my personal experience..

I hope people add to it as we go along..

Blodeuedd on 20 April 2009 at 10:54 said...

You sure had :D
I look forward to many more fun guests.

Amy C on 20 April 2009 at 12:11 said...

--You’ll act like your blog is your first child – and you’ll probably forsake your first child to keep up until you get a handle on things – if you ever do <--Good One!!

I think your personal experience is what alot of people experience as well.

Mandi on 20 April 2009 at 12:55 said...

I was just going to type what Amy C. just wrote:)

Great advice..thank you for a wonderful post!

Lea on 20 April 2009 at 13:13 said...

Awesome post and advice EH!

I'm going to bookmark this one and refer back.

You have really isolated all the important points, I think.

Warm Regards

Suzanne Yester on 20 April 2009 at 16:28 said...

Great Advice! And a great blog! I've nominated you for a Premio Dardos award! Here's the link:

Kara on 20 April 2009 at 16:51 said...

I've been blogging for a little over a year - and found some great advice from this post. Have it bookmarked so that I can check back and reread it from time to time.

VampFanGirl on 20 April 2009 at 19:07 said...

Absolutely FANTASTIC advice E.H.! I'm definitely going to be coming back to this page occationall. I'm still sooooo new!!!

Thank you!

:) VFG

Lisa Logan on 20 April 2009 at 20:11 said...

This could have been a series in and of itself. Thanks for the advice!

I'm a Been Around, having blogged for several years, but I was also Without A Clue as to HOW to really do it for quite some time. So I also consider myself new on the scene. Appreciate the info here.


Val on 20 April 2009 at 22:07 said...

These are very good points that I'll come back and study again over time. It can get very isolating on the blogosphere especially given the reality that often there are more lurkers than commenters and so it's good to have posts like this on the art of blogging itself to get other bloggers' viewpoints on it. Thanks again, E.H., for a great post!

Unknown on 20 April 2009 at 22:18 said...

Hi Et
This is why I love coming here. I'm so new at all of this. Sometimes it can get very trying. I love it now that I've started blogging. I'd wanted to do it for a long time, but it was so daunting.

I going to mark this page so I can use it for review, see if I'm making progress.

Thanks for all your great advise!

Dottie :)

Lily on 21 April 2009 at 04:47 said...

Awesome posts, thanks for sharing such great advice!!!

As someone who is so new I'm calling myself a Preemie I'll definitely be reading this many times.


TheChicGeek on 21 April 2009 at 05:31 said...

Fabulous post, E.H.! I love this and all such good advice and so true. I find my blog has evolved from what I started out doing, but I have so much fun with it and appreciate all my fellow bloggers so much! Blogging is a great joy and Lots of work too...LOL
Have a Wonderful Day!

Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:12 said...

Amy C

There was a point there when i thought i had actually given birth - which I did.


I had to use a lot of common sense to figure out the basics - so thought i would share.

I am glad you liked..


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:13 said...

Hey Lea..

Thanks, I know i probably left out tons of stuff, but we all must make our mistakes..

Thank you


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:14 said...


I'll be over to collect, thank you so much for the award..

Hope something here helps you..

Thanks you again..


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:16 said...


You have given me the greatest compliment - quite a lot of this is from personal experience, so i am very pleased something is here to help you..

I am still picking up tips and tricks everyday..


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:17 said...


It's a lovely the bunch of ladies that i have gotten in with, i have learned a lot from you and them.. So this my little bit to the big picture..


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:19 said...

Hey Lisa..Long time..

I know exactly what you mean. i don't thing i will not ever be a newbie..

I plain to expand on this every six months or so...

Lets see how much more tips and tricks i can pick up in the mean time..


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:21 said...


You have round it up in one phrase...

Lovely of you to stop by...

Thank you..


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:35 said...

Hey Lily...

Yeah right - preemie - with a mighty voice...

Glad you found something here...

you are too sweet.. Preemie - indeed


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:36 said...

I agree, i love blogging and i want to be around for a while doing it..

Somethings can unfortunately only be learned by trial and error...

I am glad something is here for you.


Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:39 said...


I get you about the lurkers as well, but because I lurk so much on a lot of site - I know a lot of people more than likely do it to mine...

I am more than super careful about my content - most times.

Glad something stood out from the post for you.


Sassy Brit @ on 24 June 2009 at 15:21 said...

Hi, I've been checking out some of your articles and this makes a fascinating read. I have learnt a lot over my blogging time, and much of it has been trial and error, I have to admit. Some good and some not so! LOL

But I do love it! Sharing books and bookish news is fun, and I've met so many nice people through doing this.