Tuesday, 21 April 2009

Discussion Point – Who Do You Connect With

 

 

 

 

 

Today  i had another post all set to post for today's Discussion Point (That’s what i am calling my daily discussions) and i visited a new blogger that i am following and the phrase below jumped right up and hit me – literally. I am not sure where the blogger is going with his blog yet, as this is literally his second post.

This is the phrase

“We didn't get any reading done tonight. I told Jack we must read some tomorrow! It connects us somehow. I can't explain it, but it does. It's good to do things together”

Shayne © This and That

I can’t explain why that phrase made such an impact, could it be that reading has become a solitary venture to lose myself in. Do i use it as my own private time – to the exclusion of all else.

Does my own action not invite people in to share my world. When did i forget the joy of sharing the written word with someone other than the people at the end of the keyboard. Can i remember the last time i actually connect with a ‘real person”.

Honestly so much is rattling around in my brain – reading is such a big part and has always been a big part of my life, but other than the kids and eventually they find there own groove when it comes to reading. I don’t read with anyone and i refuse to minimise what i love to suit anyone else. I however miss exactly what that phrase is saying - “It connects us somehow”

Firstly, have you come across a phrase recently that has made just such an impact. And secondly – who do you read with, if you don’t read with anyone –WHY NOT?

 

The phrases That that stands out. What’s yours.

I love this phrase from The Shadow of the wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon:
"Books are mirrors: you only see in them what you already have inside you. "

Blodeuedd © Book Girl of Mur-Y-Castell 

 

I have always loved the quote from Thomas Jefferson to John Adams - "I cannot live without books." I am sure they were not discussing the latest in romance novels *g* but I think it still applies to me today.

Mandi © Smexy Books

 

My son and I sometimes read together at night in my bed and there have been occasions that my husband will find a book that interests him and we'll read together. There's been a time or two he's even read to me. But mostly I'm a solitary reader.

Amy C © Romance Book Wyrm

 

I think that's why I'm having so much fun participating in the M/M Reading Challenge, while I may not be reading "together" with someone else, it's a sort of community reading with thoughts on the books being shared online instead of in person. It's been fun so far!!

Lily © I love Books

 

I haven't asked Shayne and Jack so I might be wrong about this, but I get the impression they actually sit and read the Ebooks they've been reading at the same time. Interesting. That brings up for me, what if one of you reads a bit faster than the other.

Shawn Lane © Shawn Lane Writes Romance

I find that many people I know do not share my love of romance, erotic romance, and the m/m genre. That is why I enjoy blogging and reading other blogs.

Kara © Kara’s Erotic Book List

 

But I have felt that guilty thought nigling in the back of my head. "Does my own action not invite people in to share my world." I ponder this often. I worry sometimes that in my escape, I'm also leaving the people I care about behind.

VampFanGirl © Lovin’ Me Some Romance

The book group is a great outlet, but sometimes I'm not reading a genre I enjoy.. But I try to fit those in on my own in my "down" time. So I guess it's kind of a solitary journey sometimes....

Suzanne © Chick with Books

I am the only reader in my family so I get my reading satisfaction from my bookaholic girlfriend and my blogging friends.

Teddyree © The Eclectric Reader

My dear friend Shawn Lane is correct with the conclusion that Jack and I download e-books and read them on our laptop together. It DOES keep us connected. It gives us something that we do together, and we always have great discussions about what we have read.

Shayne © This and That

 

 

22 Speak To Me:

Blodeuedd on 21 April 2009 at 10:21 said...

I have never read with anyone, why, I have no idea. maybe I haven't found anyone with similar taste. or we have, but just haven't read it at the same time.

But it sure could be fun :)

I love this phrase from The Shadow of the wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon:
"Books are mirrors: you only see in them what you already have inside you. "

Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 10:24 said...

Blodeuedd..

I love that phrase - Oh my, i felt a shiver - thank you...

And yeah it is fun to connect through reading...

E.H>

Mandi on 21 April 2009 at 13:30 said...

I have always loved the quote from Thomas Jefferson to John Adams - "I cannot live without books." I am sure they were not discussing the latest in romance novels *g* but I think it still applies to me today.

You make a good point - you refuse to minimize what you read to suit anyone else. That is it - it is very hard in "real life" to find people that obsess over the the same books (or even books in general) as I do. I can get some of my friends to read what I enjoy but they don't have that drive to keep finding new things to read. That is why I turned to the blog world..all these people that understand exactly what I feel when I read:)

Amy C on 21 April 2009 at 14:52 said...

My son and I sometimes read together at night in my bed and there have been occasions that my husband will find a book that interests him and we'll read together. There's been a time or two he's even read to me. But mostly I'm a solitary reader.

My mom and I both share the same love and obsession for books, and the same books, which is very nice. We bookshop together all the time, and we usually end up buying the same books. It's only been over the last two years, since she moved up here to be closer to me and my family. We never miss a new release Tuesday. We just recently began participating in a romance book club that formed a few months ago and even those ladies don't seem to have the same obsession. When I first learned of it I assumed they would be just like me and my mom and my fellow blogger friends...but they're not. But that's okay :).

Lily on 21 April 2009 at 15:06 said...

I've always read by myself. Other than when my kids were little and I read to them it's been just me and my books.

Growing up my sister was never interested in reading outside of school and I found the few friends I had weren't into reading either. Later on I did encounter a few co-workers who liked reading and we would trade books with each other but still it wasn't getting together to read.

The only time I've really ever been reading the same book with someone and talking about it was with the Harry Potter books. My cousin and I really got into them and would get them immediately that they came out and read and compare our thoughts on them. But, that's over now so it's back to just me.

At home, my husband occasionally reads, mainly sci-fi and fantasy, but is in no way interested in what I read :D

I think that's why I'm having so much fun participating in the M/M Reading Challenge, while I may not be reading "together" with someone else, it's a sort of community reading with thoughts on the books being shared online instead of in person. It's been fun so far!!

Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 15:51 said...

Hey Mandi,

I so get you, really I do - I am in a little bubble all by myself, I know no-one who reads what i love to read..

While I read other books, no one close to me shares my passion for romance novel...

I love blogging more so because of that...

E.H>

Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 15:53 said...

Amy,

I do remember the days my sons were young enough to enjoy reading with there Mom..

Now they just want to get on with their own reading and me to mine...

I am envious that at least you have your Mom who loves what you love - that's just so cool and a book as well..

Too cool.

E.H>

Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 16:07 said...

Lily at least you have found something to connect to people through.

To be honest i think quite alot of people can resonant with everything you have said...

Reading is unfortunately mostly a solitary vocation.

E.H>

Shawn Lane on 21 April 2009 at 17:45 said...

I don't really read with someone but I often read the same books with others and discuss it afterwards. Also, oddly enough or maybe not, my DH, Derek, reads all of my books and of course tells me how great I am, lol. Not that his opinion isn't prejudiced in my favor. I haven't asked Shayne and Jack so I might be wrong about this, but I get the impression they actually sit and read the Ebooks they've been reading at the same time. Interesting. That brings up for me, what if one of you reads a bit faster than the other.

Kara on 21 April 2009 at 18:03 said...

Reading is a solitary venture for me. I find that many people I know do not share my love of romance, erotic romance, and the m/m genre. That is why I enjoy blogging and reading other blogs.

Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 18:15 said...

Yeah Shawn i can see where the prejudice would come in...

But at least you are also able to discuss books with peopel afterwards so you connect and probably to some extent look forward to it.

And you have raised a good question... who waits on who when it comes to reading?

E.H>

Erotic Horizon on 21 April 2009 at 18:17 said...

When you read a mix bag it is really hard to find someone who like a mixture of everything...

Also one of the reasons I love blogging..

I have to admit i lurk alot on blogs ... that's where i get some cool book choices to read..

E.H>

My Blog 2.0 (Dottie) on 21 April 2009 at 20:04 said...

Hi EH!

Great post! I loved how you brought all of these sites together.

You rock EH!

Dottie ;)

VampFanGirl on 21 April 2009 at 22:21 said...

Great post E.H.!

Reading is a solitary endeavor for me and it really my escape at the end of the day. It's my time to decompress.

Years ago, my husband and I would read together but now, never. Not sure why things changed but he's just never interested in novels. He doesn't need them the way I do.

But I have felt that guilty thought nigling in the back of my head. "Does my own action not invite people in to share my world." I ponder this often. I worry sometimes that in my escape, I'm also leaving the people I care about behind.

VFG

Suzanne on 22 April 2009 at 03:27 said...

I formed a reading group from my "reading" friends at work. I really wanted to talk about the books I was reading! The book group is a great outlet, but sometimes I'm not reading a genre I enjoy.. But I try to fit those in on my own in my "down" time. So I guess it's kind of a solitary journey sometimes....

Teddyree on 22 April 2009 at 05:46 said...

I used to read to my children when they were young, now they are teenagers and when it comes to reading - the rest of my family live under a rock!!
I am the only reader in my family so I get my reading satisfaction from my bookaholic girlfriend and my blogging friends.

There's an award waiting for you at my place!
http://teddyree-theeclecticreader.blogspot.com/2009/04/show-some-love.html

shayne on 22 April 2009 at 06:30 said...

Wow, EH!

I was more than a little surprised that my comment made an interesting topic of discussion among friends online here. Thanks for the compliment, that made my day!

I love your blog! Talk about having a great variety of things to talk about and interesting things to read! Since I am a newbie at this, right now my plan is to try to do as you say and write on mine at least several times a week. Until recently, I had no idea how popular blogs are. Welcome to 2009 Shayne...LOL

My dear friend Shawn Lane is correct with the conclusion that Jack and I download e-books and read them on our laptop together.
It DOES keep us connected. It gives us something that we do together, and we always have great discussions about what we have read.

I loved reading what others do to keep connected with their loved ones, too!

You guys rock!

Thanks again for the compliment on my blog. I am looking forward to having more discussions with all of you soon!

Shayne

Erotic Horizon on 22 April 2009 at 07:13 said...

Hey Dottie...

I love sharing great sites that I know or I have found...

we all need to connect, and this is my way of making it happen..

E.H>

Erotic Horizon on 22 April 2009 at 07:14 said...

Hey VFG...

reading is always my way of decompressing, especially after a long day on the hop...

And i don't think you are the only one with that nigling thought at the back of your mind...

E.H>

Erotic Horizon on 22 April 2009 at 07:17 said...

Hey Suzanne,

That is just so cool, i love it when diversity is thrown into the mix...

I hope eventually you'll find a real person who share our love for the type of books we read..

E.H>

Erotic Horizon on 22 April 2009 at 07:19 said...

hey Teddyree

I know about the kids growing and wanting there own space to read...

My family do read, but everyone has their own things...

Thanks for the award... i am going over there now..


E.H>

Erotic Horizon on 22 April 2009 at 07:31 said...

Hey Shayne..

Welcome to my slice of the pie..

Thank you for writing that phrase, it did prompt a little discussion over here and i am sure gave people a lot to think about...

Thanks for letting us know how you and jack get on with your reading - it is really one of the best thing about a relationship - the things you can do together.

Thank you again for coming by and our doors are open to you any time.

E.H>